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There is no middle ground when handling live fire.




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Why Depression is Startling

When you’re feeling it – it isn’t startling.

Nothing is startling.


Ha! I finally know and understand the definition of apathy.

Unrelated to apathy –




I feel like some invisible disease has punctured my skin, slithered in, and has found a way to live inside me, parasitically changing me, holding me in a strange in-between, a madness, a muted, a roaring duality of pain and nothingness.

Trapping me from within, trying to squeeze the breath out of me.

It’s like a living entity is sitting on my chest; squeezing my heart in a fist of silver and hardness, harshness, imbuing it with sharpened flecks of poison; languishing in my gut, knotting me into coils and pressured twists; cracks breaking through the veneer.

And how am I still alive?

Am I?

If I barely swim to the surface of myself.

Sometimes this is all I have to give.


The madness has to come out sometime.

And how blessed am I? Writing gives me a way to breathe.

If only I’ll stop trying to control it. It isn’t always going to be pretty; it’s coming from within me. Sometimes giving the disease swarming inside me, leaching to my bones, and scratching at my soul with metallic nails – words, a voice, helps me.

Instead of leaching inwards, only swirling inside my rib cage, I can spill it onto the page and let it live there.

It may be a little worrisome to those who have never dealt with depression (depression and feeling sad are not the same thing, by the way). Perhaps it’s a little depressing to read for some.

But for me, it’s like expelling poison.

A saving grace.

That, is why I write.

How maddeningly beautiful, how simply poised I find it that both poison and the cure live inside me.



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Something Unfinished

Sometimes you find people who are extraordinary.

That would be Rarasaur.

Just reading something on her blog is enough to stir inspiration, gratitude, optimism on even the most sullen, miserable, depressing, painful days. I’m writing this on one of those days. See? Proof.

She recently put up a list, a challenge, of 30 things to do on your social media of choice.

Her original post and first #Somethingist is here. Check it out! And maybe join in. 😉


And I quote:

I’d love to see your somethings, wherever or however they be…

  1.  Something unfinished 2.    Something unlikely 3.    Something true 4.    Something invisible 5.    Something damaged 6.    Something possible 7.    Something displaced 8.    Something shocking 9.    Something substantial 10.    Something fragile 11.    Something temporary 12.    Something surprising 13.    Something strong 14.    Something illuminated 15.    Something dangerous 16.    Something secret 17.    Something foretelling 18.    Something obvious 19.    Something celebratory 20.    Something repaired 21.    Something terrifying 22.    Something lucky 23.    Something suspicious 24.    Something healing 25.    Something silly 26.    Something far 27.    Something near 28.    Something open 29.    Something closed 30.    Something overdone

Challenge accepted.


Something Unfinished


This is what a writer’s desk is supposed to look like, in my opinion.

When caught in the rush of research.

When fumbling through the folders of ideas, stray thoughts, array of disorderly characters, traces of madness, wee plot bunnies bounding about – all circling your mind. A whirlwind of grounding inspiration and, for me, life blood. I know that last sounds a bit dorky, but it’s true for me.

I don’t’ feel alive if I’m not writing. If I’m not lost in a story, weaving threads through this scene and the next, nosing along this character, watching her take off in leaps and bounds.

Writing isn’t just something I do to deal with life, to cope with my reality.

It is how I live. How I breathe. It’s how I can move through the waters of life without feeling I’m drowning, alone, and no one cares. In fact, some might point and laugh.

Writing rights all of that. All the injustice in my reality. All the pain.

I didn’t realize it until just recently – but writing is what gets me through. My life lights up like something to be lived, to be enjoyed, when I write.


Perhaps a writer’s desk doesn’t need to have specifically what I do. And mine certainly changes from day to day. Messy to organized. Binders and books to simply my laptop and an open word document.

That’s not the point.

The point is, there are writing tools on my desk. I am actively using it to expand the landscapes in my heart.

The point, is to write so I can be fulfilled. So I can slip into myself like a spirit into flesh.

The point is to write so that I can become real.


And so what is unfinished?

My novel. Blair’s story.

I’ve finally brought myself back to writing.

I’d like to finish this novel. Finish the edits, read it over and decide if it’s solid, then send it out to critique partners. Soon after that, I’ll be sending to literary agents. (Even typing that has me excited all over again.)

It’s an unfinished story.

And that is not something I want to leave in the dark recesses of my soul.



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Something is Missing

This post is mainly going to center around me being a writer. If that irritates or bores you, skedaddle. However, you can simply get rid of the word “writer/writing” and add in your passion. Then it’d relate to just about anyone. 😉


Do you ever doubt that you’re a good writer?

I don’t mean do you doubt that you are a writer.

I simply mean, publishing material?

Do you doubt that it’s what you’re meant for, what you’re good at, what you’re in love with, what you want to spend the rest of your life doing? Do you ever wonder, would it be better if I gave up on writing as a career path and went for something else? It would certainly be easier. People wouldn’t say I was wasting my life or taking too long to get to where I want to be.

I wonder that sometimes lately.

It comes in these flashes, at the bottom of some terrible episode of me realizing that I’m miserable because I keep forgetting that I’m allowed to enjoy life. That I’m allowed to tailor my life into something I want, the rest of the world’s opinion of me be damned.

It comes when I realize I’m exhausted and bottomed out. Burned out. Tired of fighting against chains I allowed other people to put on me, simply by giving into their mentality. Thinking I should be someone better than I am.




It only lasts a few moments, literally.

That’s the length of time I can even imagine spending my life not being a writer.

And then it’s gone and I see how ridiculous it was.

Because something will remind me.

I’ll finish a really good book and look up the author’s website and get that rush. That unbelievable urge to live life that way. To dive into writing, dive into all that it entails. And I’ll remember the heady craziness that writing is, this lovely terrifying beautiful monster that comforts and loves me and doesn’t let anyone else hurt me.

Maybe this doesn’t make any sense to you. But it does to me.


I keep “forgetting” to write. To schedule it in because it’s important to me. Writing is my passion.

And yet, I keep “forgetting” about it.

How does one forget part of themselves?

It’s pretty damn easy, actually.

I took a year off from writing, to get my head straight. (Life has the effect of screwing one’s head on backwards and upside down.) The year is over.

I regained my passion for writing, the urge to write, the desire to write.

I even started working on my novel a few times over the past few months.

But I’m still missing some key ingredient.

I haven’t quite connected all the dots.

At least I’ve wrapped my heart, mind, and soul around writing authentically. So taking the year off worked its magic.

However, I keep having these false starts. I’m steadily (via the false starts) getting through a list of edits, answering questions, and deciding on some changes. Perhaps they’re not false starts. Maybe I’m just starting back to writing really, really slowly.

The key ingredient seems to be finding time to focus on things I’d like to focus on. Easier said than done.

I’ll find that dot eventually, right?




What is your passion? Do you have a problem with fitting it in? Do you ever “forget” part of yourself? Any missing dots?


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Maybe you’re supposed to feel numb at some point
And as the dust settles
The true form shows
Nothing is what you had thought it to be

by Daphne Shadows


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The dark is danger

But the bright lights lie to us

And down we all fall



by Daphne Shadows


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Getting Lost in the ‘Shoulds’


Do you ever get lost in the shoulds?

I should have done that yesterday. I should have done this earlier. I shouldn’t do this, I shouldn’t do that. I should write in accordance with this rule or that author’s opinion.

I should write something that this reader would like, or a story that adds up to that person’s likes.

I should get things done and never take a moment to relax.

I should work, be productive.

I shouldn’t take a break, I shouldn’t mess around, I shouldn’t do something just for fun.

See where I’m going with this?




I remember a blog post I read by Kristen Lamb some while ago that spoke on our society’s ideals about being “productive”.

How can someone be productive if they’re not having any fun? If they’re miserable?

The world wants me to be productive. They don’t care how I do it. Or do they?


Most people get angry at creative types who are happy. They ignore how successful they are, how joyful their life is. Why?

Because this person (doing the hating) works a job they hate. And sometimes you have to do that. But what if they tried for one they didn’t hate? Or what if they tried doing something fun even though it wouldn’t be productive to their job?

Because that’s why they’re pissy with the creative types. The creative type does two things that our society normally tells us isn’t possible.

ONE, they are productive at the same time as they are TWO, having fun.

A lot of people put creatives down for having fun. Saying they’re lazy. Irresponsible. That they should get a “real job”.

If they’re being productive, aren’t they being productive? Apparently not if they’re having fun.

You should be miserable. That’s how it works.

No. I don’t think so. Productive is productive. And creatives do have a real job. Who wrote the movie you’re watching to wind down after the job  you loathe? Who wrote that book, sang that song? Do you honestly think it wasn’t WORK, doing that?




So how did I get stuck in the ‘shoulds’ again?

Because they don’t go away. They’re everywhere. Kind of how Kristen comments on school. It has made learning MISERABLE. Learning should be fun, at least a bit. But instead, we, as a society are sucking out the happiness, the fun, the joy and replacing it with “work, work, work” mentality. And we do this everywhere.


“Counting down the minutes ‘til my heartbeat stops. Fooling myself is a fulltime job.”

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Screw that. I want to be happy. I shouldn’t be punishing myself because I’m NOT miserable. That doesn’t make any sense.

I started down this stupid line of thinking because I needed t o ‘work harder’. And not leave any time for fun.


Instead, how about this.

How about I write a story the way it comes to me, the way it unfolds in my head, and then worry about rules. How about I use my voice to write before I utterly destroy it with “shoulds”. I need a balance of rules and story. I can’t overpower myself with the rules, sucking the happiness and fun out of the story.

How about I schedule in something fun? In fact, why not cut the stress off schedules altogether. What does a tight schedule (when it doesn’t need to be there), actually do for me?

Uh, nothing. Except make me feel stressed to get stuff done that should be fun, worry about what I should have gotten done, what I should have tried harder on, and what I should try to get done now.




Creatives most often suffer from being 100% productive. Let’s not even call it productive. It’s not. It’s just work, work, work. And it’s killing my writing. Because I’m a creative type.

I NEED FUN! I NEED INSPIRATION! And not just for my writing. There aren’t sections of me. I’m one person. And a creative person needs to be creative, not just box it up in a few hours for work, work, work, writing. That’s not even being creative. That’s turning it into work.


Here’s my advice to myself and you – creative or not: How about I stop caring so horribly about what others approve and expect of me, and start caring about what my soul is crying out for.

You know, being me. Being creative. Having some fun. I don’t need to be a robot to be productive.


Oh – and even better advice for myself. BELIEVE THIS. Don’t feel guilty for having fun. And stop having to remind myself of this. Just do it, live it.

Why don’t we enjoy what we can and deal with the rest as it comes.


Do you ever get lost in the “shoulds”? It’s hard to knock it off once you’ve started, huh?


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